My husband travels – a lot. So naturally it’s a foregone conclusion that he will be gone on occasion, and I will have to accept it. Recently, though, I had the opportunity to turn the tables on him. I left for a week to attend Romance Writers of America’s National Conference. Had a lovely time, learned bunches, and caught up with old and new friends. And this time, my husband stayed home without me.
I called friends before I left and said, “Check in on him, will you? He’ll be all by himself.” They did, and I was so appreciative. But still I could hear the edge and loneliness in his voice when I called. He didn’t like this role-reversal.
He’s off on a business trip, so when he comes home tomorrow, it will be two full weeks since we’ve seen each other. As a writer, I “like” my alone time, but I “love” my husband. I’ve always known what it’s like to exist without him. Maybe it was good for a change for him to exist without me.
What do you think? Does your marriage or relationship have a certain pattern to it? Ever feel the need to mix it up? How so?
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